As you make final adjustments to your 2023 plan, consider adding time to identify your self-sabotaging behavior. We all do it; it’s in our nature. Commit to learning about it and take steps to figure out how to handle this type of behavior for the rest of your life. This is a critical part of our executive leadership coaching.
As leaders, we are responsible for directing our teams with care and kindness. How often do we practice this same strategy on ourselves? Sometimes we can be our own worst critics. One of the best ways to course-correct your career is to recognize negative self-talk. It is your inner voice that judges you, others, and circumstances. It’s also mindless chatter.
You can be a positive person and still get derailed by sabotaging behavior. For example, if you lose a key client, you quickly beat yourself up for not doing something differently. Or if a prospect goes with another provider, you just know if you had more time during the presentation you would have landed the work. And the list goes on and on.
Many thanks to Darleen Priday for this recent podcast opportunity. We had much fun. She is an engaging interviewer filled with curiosity who made our time together fly by. In this podcast, I share why negative self-talk is so destructive and some ways to change the pattern.
Key points include:
- People sabotage their behavior without knowing that they are
- Improve your capacity to respond to life’s challenges with a positive rather than a negative mindset
- Negative emotions create a hot stove moment – it is an alert
- Success and happiness, peak performance, and improved relationships can be sustained for the rest of your life
- Mental fitness is as necessary as physical fitness – both help you manage your life better
Negative self-talk appears when we judge ourselves, others, or circumstances. You can learn to recognize it and handle it.